•Unhappily married couples had low-key courtships that moved forward slowly because either one or both of the partners lacked much warmth or had difficult personalities.
Some couples bury their concerns over such differences; others brood over them. •Anxiety, moodiness, and emotional swings in the wife or the husband do not preordain divorce, but they are related to unhappiness in marriage.
•The birth of a child transforms couples’ lifestyles, but it does not change the feelings husbands or wives have about each other.
It’s entirely possible – I might argue, probable – to fall in love with someone who would be a terrible spouse for you.
Taking time to really know a partner and to ensure that he/she really sees you is the best idea.
By the same token, if one party is really delaying marriage (going beyond 4 years), then it’s not a matter of being cautious, it’s a sign that he/she doesn’t really want to get married.