Teens experiencing dating violence usually tell no one. One study found that only 6% of girls and 11% of boys told anyone about the abuse that they experienced (O'Keefe and Treister, 1998).
1 in 3 teens reports knowing a friend or peer who has been hit, punched, kicked, slapped or physically hurt by a partner.
40% of teenage girls ages 14 to 17 say they know someone their age who has been hit or beaten by a boyfriend.
Typically increasing in frequency and severity over time, domestic violence includes many different types of manipulative and coercive behaviors as tools to gain and maintain control.
The progression of violence is outlined below and includes repeated use of one or more of the following behaviors: Verbal Abuse: Name-calling Put downs Yelling Use of profanity Unfounded accusations Cruel and hurtful remarks Degrading the victim in public Diminishing accomplishments Flying into rages Physical Abuse: Choking/Strangulation Holding the victim against her will Throwing or breaking objects Pushing Shoving Slapping Biting Punching Kicking Using a weapon or threatening to use a weapon Murder Emotional Abuse: Isolation Ignoring Controlling finances or employment Lack of trust/suspicion Following or stalking the victim Criticizing Threats of suicide Threats of taking away children Threats of physical violence Threats of murder Minimizes or denies behavior, explosive or critical reactions Sexual Abuse: Rape Forcing unwanted sexual acts Use of weapons during sex Forced sex involving multiple partners Inflicts pain during sex Video recording sex acts without permission Threatening to post personal pictures without permission No “typical” victim of teen dating violence exists.
·1 in 4 teens who have been in a serious relationship say their boyfriend or girlfriend has tried to prevent them from spending time with friends or family; the same number have been pressured to spend time only with their partner.