If you divorce after a separation and your case goes to court, a judge is likely to assume that since you were satisfied with the separation agreement, the agreement should carry over to the divorce settlement agreement.
For that reason, it is important that you come to a separation agreement you can live with long term.
In some cases just saying, “I understand that you don’t want me to date right now so I’ll wait until you’re ready,” can go along way to making your kids feel more comfortable with the idea.
As you can see, parents dating brings up a host of complicated issues for children and this may be a good time to meet with a therapist.
Parents may lose perspective and try to make the transition too quickly.
Kids need a great deal of their parents attention in the first year after a divorce therefore dating or introducing a new partner is best delayed until kids achieve a comfortable level of stability.
In the last post we talked about how to handle changes in holidays and celebrations.