But if you are considering him as possible life-partner, it’s good to know what you’re getting into, so you can decide, very consciously, whether you want to wade into deeper levels of commitment with him.
Here are some questions to consider: Did he leave Was there infidelity? It’s good to know why they decided to split up and how the split went.
recently) divorced, and you’re wondering if dating this man is a good idea. Some people might automatically say you shouldn’t date anyone who falls into this category, but I’m not a fan of telling someone whether they date someone. My approach is to help you get super realistic about what you want, and what you’re getting into, so that you can make your decision to stay or leave as as possible.
But what can you do to balance your heart with your head?
The most important thing you can do to protect yourself from heartbreak is to go into your relationship with your eyes open, and with your expectations in check.
He may need to communicate with his ex because even if the divorce is final, they might have other things to work out like childcare, or questions and issues about the property they co-owned.
But knowing if they still communicate, and why, will help you manage your own expectations about your relationship with him.
If you’ve been dating for a while and are looking to continue seeing each other, especially if you are dating with the intention of looking for a life partner, it’s not unreasonable to ask about the circumstances of his divorce.